Zhengzhou, Henan Province, China
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
OK I'm still not able to hold, touch or sometimes look at Yue (pronounce like oo as in moo with a long a). For a VERY short time yesterday as she was rejecting Carmel she allowed me to hand her toys in the pool but that was short lived. She has been struggling more and more the last 1-1/2 days but I hear today will probably be the worse when we visit her former orphanage. Most people report their child seems to understand they will not return to the orphanage after that visit and really begin the accept/bond with their adoptive family. I hope that is our case!!! I am so proud of my daughter and her ability to work with and process all of Yue's feelings and her own at the same time because it has not been easy to sit back and watch.
It has been wonderful to watch Yue as she attempts to put on her own socks, color in her coloring book (or I should say put the crayons in and out of the box) and smile and giggle with her light up $1.00 texture balls. I should say she did allow me to wipe up her watermelon juice on her highchair while she was sitting in it. In the play room she reminded me of Carmel when she was young because Yue got on a rocking horse and rocked so hard it looked like she was going to go head over heels just like Carmel did when she was young. It was fun and funny to watch as she explores things she had never seen but there is soooo much more out there.
This morning she has HELPED Carmel comb her hair, chose the bands for her hair and put on her shoes and socks. She also likes to fold her clothes. Yesterday when she found one of her socks that had fallen under her crib she had a screaming melt down and once it was handed to her she stopped but hugged the sock to herself tight. It is very obvious she has not had 'things' of her own and she loves 'her' clothes, socks seem to be a big thing and so are shoes. It has also been fun watching her keep her bows in her hair - there may be a girly girl in the making - or maybe not once she gets in her own yard and home to get down and dirty????
I appreciated staying at the hotel yesterday and was able to keep closer to Yue's schedule so hopefully that will help today during her orphanage melt downs today. I met more amazing adoptive families yesterday including a family from Holland. It is amazing to hear all the stories. I can't express my appreciation and respect I have for them all.
It sounds like we are heading out for breakfast so I will write more after our orphanage visit today.
Love you all for your support,
Grammy --
I am having a hard time concentrating at work... I'd much rather follow your journey:) Thank you for allowing us all to be a part of this wonderful and tear jerking experience. I hope you don't mind... I forwarded the blog to my family as well. My envy is taking over Carmel... You are such a persistant person and now you have your child!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI can't even put into words what I think...awe doesn't always have words...and I can't imagine the emotions all of you are feeling. All at the same time...but for somewhat different reasons. THanks for sharing. Love and miss you guys. Cathy, Dan, Megan and Erin.
ReplyDeleteGrammy, You have the right attitude. She will love you like crazy cakes before long. When we adopted our first daughter from China we had that kind of experience; my daughter only wanted my husband for several days before she started warming up to me. In fact, I hear it is very common for the child to latch on to one parent/one person and want nothing or not much to do with the other one. I saw that with several of the families (including mine)on our trip.
ReplyDeleteCarmel, thanks for sharing this adventure with us. We are so happy for you! It does get better and better (even though it is sometimes two steps forward, one step back). We are two months behind you and your blog has been a beacon for us along the way.
Thank you so much for letting me follow your journey! I can't wait to see how B'Elanna grows and bonds!
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